Smoky Grilled Cauliflower Steaks with Peach, Mango, and Black Bean Salsa

I may be described as many things, but a griller is not one of them. It’s just not something that I have gravitated to and there’s really no reason for it. Having said that, I do enjoy a good BBQ and have enjoyed some absolutely delicious barbecue feasts.

Here’s a recipe that will change up the typical barbecue fare. Grilled cauliflower…with a colorful kick. Remember grilling is not just for burgers and big slabs of meat.

For a moment, I want you to think outside of the box. Most of us typically eat cauliflower florets…nothing wrong with that! However, of late, I have been on a cauliflower steak kick. A cauliflower steak is nothing more than the center cuts of a head of cauliflower. They can be grilled or roasted and are like a blank canvas waiting to be filled with yummy goodness.

To create cauliflower steaks you first want to trim the bottom stem to make it level with the bottom florets. Next, remove any leaves.

Stand the cauliflower on its stem. Using a sharp knife trim 1/2″ – 1″ off of the right and left sides of the cauliflower head. Reserve the florets for later use. Place the remaining head onto the baking sheet you will be utilizing for cooking. I recommend lining the baking sheet with parchment paper (for a snappy cleanup).

With a sharp knife cut through the center of the cauliflower. From there begin slicing the halves into 3/4″ – 1″ thick slices. The two center cut steaks should hold together nicely. You will likely begin to lose florets off of the end cuts. Don’t fret. Hang onto the florets and pop them right back into place once you situate the steaks on the baking sheet.

Now you can brush them with oil, add a spicy rub, sprinkle with parmesan cheese, or just salt and pepper these bad boys. If roasting, they’ll require 25-30 minutes cooking time at 375 degrees.

But today, we’re talking about grilling these guys up.

The following recipe combines many different elements: smoke, heat, sweet, and tang. The vibrant orange color, which is sure to catch people’s eye, comes courtesy of some smoked paprika. I hope you enjoy!

Next week I have one more cauliflower steak recipe to share.  So be sure to check back on Monday!

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Smoky Grilled Cauliflower Steaks with Peach, Mango, and Black Bean Salsa

1 medium size head of cauliflower
2 tablespoons canola oil
1 teaspoon smoked paprika
1 tablespoon honey
1/2 teaspoon salt
juice of half a lime

2 cups diced peaches (skin removed)
1/4 cup thinly sliced scallions
1/3 cup finely diced jicama, peeled
1 cup diced mango
1/2 tablespoon finely minced jalapeno, ribs and seeds removed
1/2 cup canned black beans, rinsed and drained
1/4 cup dried cherries

1 tablespoon olive oil
1 tablespoon rice vinegar
1 tablespoon fresh lime juice
1 tablespoon honey
1/4 teaspoon salt

cilantro leaves for garnish

Begin by preparing the salsa.

Run a sharp knife along each side of the pit of the mango, separating it into two halves.  Lightly brush the flesh with olive oil and place on the grill for 2-3 minutes.  Remove from the grill and allow to cool until you are able to handle.  Remove the mango from the skin and dice.

Add the peaches, scallions, jicama, mango, jalapeno, black beans, and cherries to a bowl.  Whisk together one tablespoon each of olive oil, rice vinegar, honey, and fresh lime juice.  Stir in 1/4 teaspoon of salt.  Pour the mixture over the salsa ingredients.  Stir and allow to sit.  Keep in mind that the longer you allow the salsa to sit, the hotter it will become.  However, there is not enough jalapeno in the mix to produce an overly spicy salsa.

Cut your cauliflower into four steaks as described above.  Arrange the steaks in a grilling basket.

Whisk together 2 tablespoons canola oil, 1 tablespoon honey, the juice of half a lime, 1 teaspoon smoked paprika, and 1/2 teaspoon salt.  Brush the the top, bottom, and sides of the steaks with the mixture.

Place the basket onto the grill and cook for 3-4 minutes per side.  Be watchful to prevent burning.  Anytime you are adding something sugar based to the grill, in this case, honey, you increase the chance of burning.  If burning starts, move the basket to a cooler area of the grill and adjust the cooking time accordingly.

The steaks should be slightly fork tender, but not soft.

Arrange the grilled steaks on a platter and top with the salsa.  Spoon the remaining salsa into a bowl and serve on the side.  Garnish with a few cilantro leaves and serve.

Lessons from Dad

Father’s Day comes and goes each year.  It’s one of those bittersweet days.  I love to celebrate my husband and the wonderful dad that he is to our boys.  Yet, inevitably, at some point during the day, I reflect on my own dad.  Our journey as father and daughter was an interesting one.  I learned some of life’s greatest lessons from my dad.  Our story is marked by a sad beginning, a turbulent middle, and redemptive ending.  I hope you’ll stick with me.

It was Thanksgiving evening.  Dinner was done, guests had said their goodbyes, and the house was in a bit of disarray.  I was only five years old, my younger brother a year and a half.  I obviously don’t remember the specifics of the day, but nonetheless, that Thanksgiving would be a momentous one.  For on that day my dad left.  Simply took his belonging and walked away.  Our lives were changed in an instant.

My father returned to the Bronx where he took up residence in his mother’s spare bedroom.  To my father’s credit he remained involved with my brother and me.  We regularly spent time with my dad and grandmother.  He helped my mother out financially and maintained the house.  And while I was too young to fully understand our new family arrangement, it all just seemed odd to me.  However, I looked forward to those weekend trips.

I remember one specific visit where my father introduced my brother and me to a new “friend”.  She was apparently someone that my father had known for quite some time.  It was then that my young mind began to put the sordid pieces together.  My mother would fill in the gaps for me.

Within two years my parents’ divorce was finalized, and soon after, my father would remarry.  His new wife, the woman with whom he had been involved with while married, was young, and I frankly never gave her a chance.  I would not allow myself to like her.  I would not allow my heart to be open to her.  My mind was made up.

Future visits with my dad were marked by tears, unhappiness, and loneliness.  And as my father and wife began their new lives together, my sadness would turn to anger.  While my mom struggled to put food on the table, when there were times when the electricity was shut off, when birthdays went by without a gift, my father seemingly basked in the glow of his new home, new car, new toys, and new children.  Our twice monthly visits would become monthly visits, then every other month visits, then holiday and birthday visits, then would simply fade away.  Our visits were replaced with phone calls that were more obligatory than anything else.  My anger was slowly turning to hatred.

I entered high school seemingly happy on the outside but longing for love and acceptance on the inside.  I am fully aware that many young people in similar situations can get themselves into trouble, can wander down the wrong path, can look for love in all the wrong places.  I was fortunate, for the Lord put a father figure in my life in high school.  I was in the band, and the band was my life.  Our band director really became my dad during those vital years. He took a genuine interest in my life.  He went so far as to having me over to his house for dinner with his family.  I imagine that there were plenty of fellow classmates who envisioned a “Mr. Holland’s Opus” storyline, but no, that was the farthest thing from the truth.  To me, this man was the closest thing I had to a father.

While high school graduation was a happy time for most, it was terrifying to me.  All of the stability, acceptance, and love I received from friends and others would dissipate as we all went in our separate directions.  I remained local and commuted to a nearby university. It was there that I realized how easy it was to find love and acceptance in the arms of all the wrong people. I was desperately looking to fill the void. I look back on that time now and see how the hand of the Lord protected me. I put myself into some precarious situations, some, downright dangerous. Yet, amazingly I was kept safe. I should have been an 11:00 news story.

By this time in my life, I was a strong, independent, self-reliant young woman, but on the inside, there was that little girl, immature, vulnerable, naive, and hurt. The gap between my father and me was now a wide chasm. I hated him. I vowed that he would never earn my forgiveness for he was too undeserving. I would never allow all the years of pain and hurt to be erased. I would never give him a pass. He would never walk me down the aisle. I remember making a statement once that I wouldn’t even care if he died.

Those feelings don’t just happen overnight. There is a progression. Hurt – Sadness – Anger – Hatred – Bitterness. Each one building off the last; each one defining more of who I was. I realize now what I couldn’t see then: hatred and bitterness did more to harm me, than my dad. I carried around a backpack full of burdens everywhere I went. It dragged me down into the muck and the mire. My deliberate attempt to hurt my father, resulted in only one person being hurt…me.

For those of you who know me, you may have picked up on the fact that there is something missing from the above story: the Lord. I was saved early and grew up in the church, however, the older I got, the more I simply ran through the motions of religion. There was no relationship with the Lord, and that was obvious. It was during those turbulent college years that the Lord would grab hold of me. In reality, He had never let go of me, but He had to shake me pretty hard in order to get my attention.

Through accidents, sickness, and heartbreak, the Lord would bring me to my knees. He would open my eyes to the self destructive path I was on. One night after returning home from class, I sat on the hood of my car and stared out into the starry sky. I broke down in tears and cried out to the Lord. Life wasn’t good; I had no joy, no peace, and no hope. It was then that I realized that the love I had been searching for all of those years was always there. It wasn’t to be found in my earthly father but in my Heavenly Father. I took a vow that night, a rededication of sorts, to simply stop what I was doing. I was going to let the Lord direct my path.

Not surprisingly, our faithful God did direct my path. Within a few months he ordered my life and brought stability to it. I met my future husband, graduated college, and got into the workforce. In due time I would become engaged, and as I began to plan for my new life, the Lord reminded me that I still needed to deal with my old one. He impressed upon me that if I didn’t deal with my dad and my feelings, I would bring a lot of baggage into my marriage. After much prayer I decided to write a letter to my father. It was a long one. It was respectful but honest and blunt. I intended to mail it to him, but the letter never made it to the post office. This would be something I needed to do face to face.

I called my dad and told him that I needed to talk with him. I warned him that I needed to get some things off of my chest. So we set a date and my fiance and I sat down at my father’s kitchen table with my dad and his wife. I read my letter to them. Twenty years of hurt and anger were laid out on the table. There wasn’t much conversation to be had, just a lot of listening. He didn’t dispute anything I had to say. At the end, I told my dad that I forgave him, words I never thought I would utter. With that, we left. As the door closed behind me, I felt the weight of that burdensome pack fall off. I hadn’t realized how the weight of hatred had been holding me down. I felt free…literally.

Soon after, I was married. My father attended the wedding with his wife. My mother and brother walked me down the aisle, not out of spite, but out of love. I danced with my brother, not my father, again not out of spite, but out of love for my brother.

With time, my husband and I would reach out to my dad. It was a bit awkward at first for everyone, but new beginnings have to start somewhere. We had occasional phone conversations and a visit here and there. We didn’t focus on the past but on the present.

Within a few years I would give birth to my first child. This event would really test my heart. I remember calling my dad when my son was born. He and his wife came down to our house within a few days. They brought dinner and a shower of gifts. They were exuberant, like grandparents should be. However, this new found excitement did not sit well with me. Phone calls from my dad would become more frequent. Requests to visit were common. Random gifts were commonplace. What was up? Then the dark part of my heart spoke up. I told my husband, “So my dad thinks that he can just waltz into my life and be grandpa. What about all the times I needed a dad. What? Am I supposed to just forget about those times?”

Yep. That’s exactly what I was called to do. I had forgiven my dad….or so I thought I had.

“I, even I, am He who wipes out your transgressions, for my own sake, and I will not remember your sins.” Isaiah 43:25

That verse hit me right between the eyes. What does true forgiveness look like? It is choosing not to remember the past. It is putting it away, far away from our minds. I don’t believe that we can truly forgive and forget. Our minds are not set up in a way to completely forget. All of our life experiences make us who we are. We just can’t pretend they aren’t there. But, we can choose to not remember them. When I looked at my dad, I still saw a little bit of the hurt. I hadn’t let that all go.

So how do I really accomplish this forgiveness thing? Well, I didn’t need to look far to find the perfect example in God himself. I surely was not (and am not) without sin. I had done some downright ugly things. I turned my back on the Lord. I was in need of forgiveness. I sought forgiveness and it was granted to me. How did the Lord view me?

“If anyone is in Christ he is a new creature. The old things have passed away, behold all things have become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17”

Once forgiven, the Lord doesn’t look at me the same. He doesn’t look at me and see my sin; He sees me as new. He chooses not to remember my sins. If the Lord did that for me, how could I do anything less for my dad?

And from that day on, I chose not to remember. I chose to see my dad for who he was now, not who he was then. And as a result, the Lord blessed me with a good relationship with my dad. I looked forward to visits with my dad. I found joy in seeing him be a grandpa. I enjoyed our conversations. I would chuckle as he would call me from Target to find out what size the boys were wearing or ask me if the boys would like a certain toy. And with time I heard something from my dad that I never heard before, “I love you.” And for the first time in my life, I knew he meant it. Priceless.

The Lord would grant me only but a few years to enjoy this new found relationship with my dad. Oh, but how thankful I am for those years no matter how short they were.

So, today I remember my dad for the good dad he was, for the great grandpa he was, for the changed man he became, and for the great lesson of forgiveness and love I learned through him.

Love and miss ya, Dad!

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